Why Online Dating May Not Be Working For You
Online dating has been the latest trend in dating for a long time now. Many people take part in this process on a daily basis. Some are successful at it, while others seem to struggle at it. When I first got divorced, I decided to take a stab at it.
I was very optimistic about getting into the online dating thing. I was on multiple dating sites in order to increase my odds at meeting women. I set up a good profile, at least I thought it was. I made sure I put up interesting pictures of myself doing various activities.
I had pictures of myself skydiving, running 5K’s, and even had a picture of me riding a camel. There was no way I would not be successful at it. Unfortunately, I was not getting any responses. I must have messaged over 60 women.
I did not just send the standard hey there, or I like your profile. I am a writer, so I was hitting them with some good stuff. Time and time again, I got no responses. Well actually I did get one message, but it was from a guy who described himself as a feminine male.
That was not what I was looking for. I know that many of you guys out there may be going through what I was going through or just may not be having any luck with the people you meet on there.
I realized that when it comes to online dating not working for you, there are a couple of reasons why. Fellas, the women you are messaging are being messaged by hundreds of guys a day. It can be overwhelming to them. They do not have time to sift through all those messages.
They may take 1 to 2 seconds to look at your picture. If you are not in that top 5% of the real “good looking” men, then they are passing you by.
Ladies, when you are messaging those 5% of the real “good looking” men, they are also being sent messages by hundreds of other women. This means they can be very picky.
Even if you are lucky enough to get a date with one of them, it may not work out in the end because they have so many options that they may not be looking for anything serious.
So for me, I decided to get off of online dating because it did not make me feel good. If something does not make you feel good, stop it immediately. I made the realization that I was successful at meeting women way before online dating was around.
I decided to go out and mingle with real people that I could see and talk to. I immediately began getting phone numbers and going out on dates.
There is nothing wrong with online dating, unfortunately it does not work for everyone. If it is not working for you, then get off of it and get out the house and meet people in person. You will not regret it.