Is it Real Love
How many of you out there have heard the term love hurts? I would venture to say that many of you have not only heard the term, but used it as well.
There are even songs out there about how love hurts. I was really thinking about this lately and I have come to the conclusion that love does not hurt.
Many of you may disagree with me, but stay with me for a little bit while I try to rationalize this for you all. When I think of love in its purest form, all I can think of is happiness, joy, and bliss.
I will take it one step further and give you all one definition of love that I retrieved off of dictionary.com. It states that love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
So when you combine my definition of love as well as the official definition, there is not anything negative or gloom in either definitions.
So I state again, love does not hurt. What does hurt is pain. Many of you are in relationships where you all started out with love for each other, but at some point something changed.
One or both of you may have fallen out of love with each other. You may think you are in love, but the actions of one or the both of you tells a different story.
Now when this happens, this is where cheating, resentment, verbal and/or physical abuse comes in. If you currently have these things in your relationship, then you have a whole lot of pain to deal with. So it is not love that is hurting you, it is pain.
So love does not hurt, pain does. When I looked up the definition of pain from dictionary.com, one of the definitions states that pain is a mental or emotional suffering or torment.
Nothing in that definition has anything to do with joy or a deep affection. Many times we confuse pain for love. As you can see, the two have nothing to do with one another. One of the main reasons that some people associate pain with love is that some of us do not really know what true love is.
Why else would we subject ourselves to mental or emotional suffering? Trust me, I have been the receiver and distributor of pain in many relationships. Love had nothing to do with those situations, it was all hurt. It was the misunderstanding of love that had me confusing the two.
So to all my love birds out there, what did you all learn by reading this article? LOVE DOES NOT HURT. It simply cannot. You will have issues in relationships that come up.
But when it comes to the point of hurt and pain, love has probably left the building and probably you should too. Love does not hurt…….