Set the Tone
Why is he not taking me out? I get this question a lot when talking to single women who are actively dating. When asked what they like about the guy, most answer that they like the sex.
As a matter of fact, they love the sex. They are caught in a situation where the only thing that they do is have sex. There are no movie dates, no dinner dates, not even a walk on the beach date.
Now ladies, if sex is the only thing that you want, then there is nothing wrong with this situation. However, if you are looking for a future boyfriend and ultimately a husband, then this is not the situation that you want to be in.
So to briefly answer the question, he is not taking you out because he does not want to. The reason being is that you did not set the tone for that to happen.
When you first meet a guy, if the conversation immediately centers around sex, then the tone is being set to be all about sex. You may really be physically attracted to him, but if your goal is to have a meaningful relationship, then you have to set the tone for him to get to know you.
One way that you get to know a person is through conversations, lots of conversations. If you are sending nude pictures of yourself before your first date, then that sexual tone is being further cemented. The greatest mistake that many of these women make is starting to have sex with that guy before one or more dates.
Now there is no judgment here by me, we are free to do as we please. You just have to be aware that doing certain things will get you certain results. When it comes to the magic number of days to wait before having sex, I do not have that number.
As a man, I can tell you that the shorter that number is, the less likely that we really get to know you.
I tell you ladies this, you have the power. Many of you know this but do not use it. Everything that we do, from getting haircuts, to driving nice cars, and obtaining wealth centers around attracting women.
Make us talk on the phone with you, not text. Make us take you out on dates. Make us really get to know you. For those of us men that are not with that tone that you are setting, then you can weed us out and find the ones that want to get to know you.
The dating world is tough sometimes, but you can make it a little better by setting the tone that you truly want.